In this powerful session, young people asked Sandeep Maheshwari about career confusion, business vs job, judiciary preparation stress, and marriage decisions. His answers were brutally honest, deeply practical, and rooted in real-life wisdom.
Let's dive into each question and answer with detailed explanations to transform your mindset today.
Question 1. Job vs Business – What Should You Choose?
The Question: "Sir, I'm 22. I graduated last year and currently doing a job. My father wants me to join his wholesale shoe business, but I want to do something of my own. I feel confused – job or business, which is better for me?"
Sandeep Sir's Detailed Answer:
1. Don't choose business just because it looks glamorous.
Today, startups, Shark Tank, and social media make business look shiny.
Truth: Business is "full-time tension". Job is "part-time work" with mental peace.
Example: In business, your mind works 24x7, even while sleeping. In jobs, work ends after 8-9 hours, giving time for yourself.
2. Business = Solving problems with accountability.
In a job, you're responsible only for your tasks.
In business, "you're responsible for everything":
- Product issues
- Employee problems
- Money issues
- Market changes
- Unexpected challenges
Lesson: Business is not for escaping jobs. It is to "solve real customer problems passionately".
3. Remove illusions of money and freedom before deciding.
Write on paper:
Left side: Job pros and cons
Right side: Business pros and cons
Don't be influenced by friends or society's views on business.
Key Truth: Many think, "I need more money, so I'll start a business." But customers don't care about your problems. They only pay if you solve their problems better than anyone else.
4. Ask yourself:
- Is there a "real problem" you're passionate to solve?
- Do you understand the problem deeply enough to create a solution?
- Will customers pay for it repeatedly?
If not, business is not for you yet.
5. Final Realistic Comparison:
| Job | Business |
|---|---|
| Stability & fixed income | Income highly unpredictable |
| Less responsibility | Complete responsibility |
| More personal time | Work never ends |
| Boring after some time | Stressful but challenging |
| Less growth ceiling | High growth if successful |
Key Takeaway: Both are good if you choose "based on your nature, passion, and understanding of problems", not social influence.
Question 2. Is Marriage Necessary for Old Age Support?
The Question: "Sir, I'm female, from a middle-class family. Everyone says marriage is necessary for old age support. Is it really so? What if I remain unmarried?"
Sandeep Sir's Detailed Answer:
1. Marriage is not only about love – it is a life transaction.
Real life is "give and take". In marriage, if both partners feel their needs are met, it continues. If only one gives and the other takes, the relationship breaks.
2. Marriage creates a social & legal bond that is difficult to break.
This legal difficulty keeps many marriages going despite problems.
Truth: If divorce was as easy as UPI payment, divorce rates would increase 1000 times.
3. Benefits of marriage:
- You get a companion for good and bad times.
- Over time, you get used to each other, and separation becomes emotionally difficult.
But remember: Many people end up in toxic marriages. Staying unmarried is better than being in a wrong marriage just for old age support.
4. Old age reality:
Even if you're married, "your spouse may not care for you like you imagine".
In hospitals, real care comes from "nurses and doctors", not just family.
For old age security, "financial independence is more important".
5. Final powerful truth:
Don't marry just for old age care.
Marry if you find "compatible companionship" where you feel comfortable being your true self without acting.
"Otherwise, staying single is better than living with the wrong person."
Question 3. Judiciary Preparation Stress – Continue or Change Path?
The Question: "Sir, I'm an advocate preparing for judiciary. I reached the interview stage but missed selection by few marks. I feel motivated but also fear missing out on life. Am I sacrificing too much?"
Sandeep Sir's Detailed Answer:
1. Bigger goals require bigger sacrifices.
Judiciary is not just a job; it brings 'huge respect and stability".
Anything that gives "more than money" requires "greater dedication".
2. Understand the probability and your time frame.
Competitive exams like judiciary have "uncertain results".
Selection is not fully in your control – it depends on examiners, interviewers, and limited seats.
Example: You may perform well, but if the examiner has biases, your efforts may not yield results.
3. Fix your maximum time frame.
Decide: "I'll try for 2-3 years. If not, I'll move to business or practice law independently."
This protects your mental health and self-esteem.
4. Never tie your self-worth to results outside your control.
Preparation is in your control.
Selection is not.
Key Lesson: If you fail in something outside your control, "you are not a failure". You simply explored an option with low probability.
5. Have backup options for peace of mind.
Since business is in your family background, it is a practical backup.
Multiple options reduce stress and fear of future.
6. Final Mindset Shift:
"I went for the gold rush knowing it's uncertain. If I win, great. If not, I have other options."
This keeps your confidence strong and life balanced.
Final Powerful Life Lessons from Episode 5
- Business is about solving real customer problems with full accountability.
- Job gives stability and personal time, not boredom if you choose consciously.
- Marriage is meaningful only with compatibility and true companionship.
- Bigger goals demand bigger sacrifices. Accept it with clarity.
- Never let results outside your control decide your self-worth.
- Keep backup plans ready without guilt. It is wise, not cowardly.
Your Action Steps Today
- Write down your key career confusion (job vs business) with pros and cons.
- Note down what kind of companionship you want in marriage.
- List your bigger goals and their sacrifices. Ask yourself: "Am I ready to pay the price?"
- Create at least one backup plan for every important life decision.
Final Reflection: This session reminds us that "clarity comes from facing truths, not running away from them". Choose your path consciously, knowing "every choice has a price". When you are ready to pay that price, success, peace, and freedom will become your natural state.
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---------WISH YOU ALL THE BEST--------
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Credits: This post is inspired by "Problem Solving Marathon Ep 5" by Sandeep Maheshwari. The learnings are explained in my own words for educational and motivational purposes.
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